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Psychosexual Therapy for Sex and Intimacy Difficulties
Sex may have become pressured, painful, disappointing, avoided or hard to talk about. You may be experiencing a change in desire, erection difficulties, pain, orgasm difficulties, anxiety, loss of confidence or growing distance between you and a partner.
Sometimes the change follows illness, medication, menopause, childbirth, ageing, stress, loss, betrayal or a difficult experience. Sometimes there is no obvious explanation. We will not impose one. Psychosexual therapy helps you explore what may be happening in your body, your life and your relationships.
You can attend alone or with a partner. You do not need a diagnosis, a shared explanation or certainty about what you want to change before getting in touch.
A free initial consultation offers a private, low-pressure way to ask questions and decide whether this kind of therapy feels right for you.
What Happens in Psychosexual Therapy?
Psychosexual therapy is a specialist talking therapy. It does not involve physical touch, examination or sexual activity with the therapist.
The first sessions focus on understanding what is happening rather than rushing towards a solution. We may explore when the difficulty began, what has changed, how it affects you or your relationship, and what you hope might become different.
Sexual difficulties do not sit neatly in one category. Physical health, medication, hormones, pain, stress, relationship patterns, expectations, confidence and past experiences may all be relevant. We will not assume the difficulty is ‘all in your head’. Where a medical check or specialist assessment would be useful, we will discuss that openly.
The work may include clearer sexual communication, reducing pressure, understanding avoidance or anxiety, rebuilding confidence, and agreed exercises between sessions. Any exercise is discussed in advance, completed privately and adapted to your boundaries. Therapy will not prescribe how often you should have sex or what a satisfying sexual relationship should look like.
Concerns Psychosexual Therapy Can Support
People seek psychosexual therapy for many different reasons. The difficulty may be recent, long-standing, situational or hard to describe.
Psychosexual therapy may help with:
• low or reduced desire, or differences in desire between partners
• erection difficulties, rapid or delayed ejaculation, or performance anxiety
• pain, vaginismus, discomfort or difficulty with penetration
• orgasm difficulties
• avoidance of sex or loss of sexual confidence
• changes following illness, injury, childbirth, menopause or ageing
• shame, body-image concerns or difficult past experiences
• sexual communication, differing preferences or intimacy after betrayal
This is not a checklist you need to fit. The same concern can mean something different for each person or relationship.
Maria is an experienced relationship counsellor with additional qualifications in psychosexual therapy. She offers specialist, sex-positive work that considers emotional, relational and physical factors without judgement or assumptions about identity, relationship structure or what sex should look like.
Common Difficulties We Help With
Struggling with erections or performance anxiety
You might notice pressure building during sex, losing erections, or worrying about how you’re performing. This can quickly affect confidence and enjoyment.
Low desire or mismatched libido
A drop in sexual desire, or differences between partners, can lead to frustration, confusion, or distance in a relationship.
Pain or discomfort during sex
Experiences such as vaginismus, genito-pelvic pain, or discomfort during or after sex can make intimacy feel difficult or something to avoid.
Feeling disconnected from sex or intimacy
This can include avoiding intimacy, feeling emotionally distant, struggling to reach orgasm, or experiencing shame, anxiety, or the impact of past experiences.
Common Questions About Sex and Intimacy
Is it normal to feel anxious about sex?
Yes. Anxiety around sex is very common and can affect confidence, performance, and enjoyment. Therapy can help you understand where that pressure comes from and how to reduce it.
Can therapy help with erection difficulties?
Therapy can help when anxiety, confidence, relationship dynamics or performance pressure contribute to erection difficulties. New, persistent or unexplained changes also deserve a medical check so physical factors, medication and health conditions are not overlooked.
Do I need to attend with my partner?
No. You can attend individually or as a couple. Many people start on their own and still find it helpful in improving their relationship and confidence.
Why do I avoid intimacy even though I want it?
Sometimes avoidance is a response to pressure, pain, fear, disconnection, shame or something else entirely. Therapy offers a place to explore the possibilities without forcing an explanation, then consider what would make intimacy feel safer, freer or more wanted.
Psychosexual Therapy in Kent and Online
CSQ offers specialist psychosexual therapy from Kings Hill, near West Malling, with online sessions available across Kent and the wider South East.
Talking about sex can feel exposing, especially when the difficulty has affected confidence, pleasure or a relationship for some time. You do not need the right words, and you will not be expected to disclose everything in an introductory conversation.
A free initial consultation gives you space to explain the broad concern, ask about Maria’s way of working and decide whether the fit feels right. There is no pressure to commit to ongoing sessions.
If the main difficulty concerns conflict, trust or emotional connection rather than sex itself, our relationship therapy page may be a more useful starting point.
You can book a free initial consultation, call 01732 410136 or use the enquiry form which you can find here.
