Frequently asked questions

Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that focuses on sexual difficulties, intimacy, and relationship concerns. A sex professional helps explore both the physical and emotional aspects of sex, including desire, arousal, performance anxiety, pain, shame, trauma, and communication between partners. Maria is a psychosexual therapist and can be contacted here to arrange a free initial consultation(https://www.churchill-square-counselling.com/meet-maria-konstantinelli) Rather than just looking at symptoms, a clinical sexologist in therapy helps you understand the psychological, relational, and behavioural factors that may be affecting your sex life, in a confidential and safe setting. It also helps you understand and explore solutions or ways forward. Psychosexual therapy is not sex surrogacy and does not involve any physical touch. Most questions around psychosexual therapy sit at the intersection of: • Shame • Fear of being abnormal • Relationship anxiety • Attachment wounds • Performance pressure • Trauma • Compulsive coping • Sex and Intimacy Therapy

Sex is a normal and healthy part of life - without sex and intimacy life wouldn't continue. It can be, and should be, stress free and without negative consequences, but sometime this isn't the case. There are many reasons clients look for help or get in touch with us and and range from • Checking whether therapy could actually help • Looking for reassurance without feeling vulnerable • Trying to work out if what they’re experiencing is “normal” •  Something about sex feels confusing, distressing, or different from how they think it should be • Is this normal type questions - These tend to be about comparison or not feeling good enough. •  Relationship and couple-based difficulties - mismatched libido or a difference in preference • Anxiety, trauma and emotional roots - how past experiences impact sexual relations now • Compulsion and control difficulties like persistent sexual arousal • Sex and intimacy therapy - sex problems in men - ladies sex problems A psychosexual therapist, or sex professional can help to work through the underlying causes of sexual problems and find ways forward that are more satisfying.

See this blog for a more detailed list but Psychosexual therapy can help with things like: • loss of erection during intercourse • sexual arousal for women • male sex problem • low male libido causes • sexual arousal cycle Read on for more around specific areas

• Is it normal to not want sex in a relationship? • Why do I feel anxious before sex? • Why can’t I orgasm even though I’m attracted to my partner? • Is it normal to lose erections sometimes? • Why do I only feel aroused by porn? • Why do I avoid intimacy even though I love my partner? • Why do I feel disgust or guilt after sex? • Why does sex feel emotionally overwhelming?

• Can psychosexual therapy save a relationship? • What do you do in sex therapy as a couple? • How do we fix mismatched libido? • My partner wants more sex than me – what do we do? • How do we rebuild intimacy after an affair? • Why do I shut down during intimacy? • Can therapy help with performance anxiety?

• Why can’t I stop thinking about sex? • What is compulsive sexual behaviour? • Can therapy help sex addiction? • Why do I sabotage relationships with sex? • Am I addicted to porn? • How do I stop watching porn?

• What happens in psychosexual therapy? • Is sex therapy awkward? • Do I have to talk about graphic details? • How long does psychosexual therapy take? • Is psychosexual therapy confidential? • Can I do sex therapy online? • Is psychosexual therapy only for couples? • What do Sex Therapists Do? • Where can I find a sexologist in London? • What is sex and intimacy therapy? • How long does it take to cure vaginismus?

• Why do I lose my erection with someone I care about? • Why do I feel pressure to perform? • How do I fix premature ejaculation naturally? • Why do I avoid sex but still watch porn? • Can therapy help performance anxiety?

• Why is sex painful? • Why don’t I feel desire anymore? • Why do I feel numb during sex? • Why do I struggle to orgasm? • How do I feel confident sexually? • How long does it take to cure vaginismus?